Letting go

My people are big immigrants. They migrate to better horizons in order to find revenue that will help them provide for their entire family. In the past, only men went and stay abroad, leaving wives and children behind.
However, recently, those wives also migrated to join their husband to support them or to work as well. Parents knowing that a woman was worth a man, starting to let their daughters go abroad to take their chance at this game. This new form of migration caused serious social problems back home. One problem that draws my attention is the one concerning children.
Back home, the trend is for those women leaving and giving birth in foreign countries, to send their children back home to be raised by their grandparents. Babies as young as 3 months are "shipped" home because their mothers cannot take care of them and try to earn a living at the same time.
In my country, a new mother always have the help and support of her family starting with her own mother. If she is working and has little money, she can hire a maid to take care of the baby. But abroad, you are left alone. And hiring a maid is out of question if you are hoping to save some money. So what new mother do, they send their babies back home where everything is better and preferably cheaper.
I used to see new mothers, family members and friends doing the same. I used to judge them. I thought that it was too easy. After all it was your baby and you should take care of him,her.
After spending some time home, I became to change my mind. I realized that my Baby had bloomed in the short amount of time he spent with his extended family. He was smiling more, playing more, eating more...He even said his first word during our journey. He was a changed baby and this was not due to us his parents. Did he have more to gain living with his family back home or staying with his two parents?
There was not straight answer to this question. But what is sure is that:
1. Baby Boy is getting more and more attached to me.
2. I may never be able to work (or at least until he enrolls in kindergarten)
3. Little Prince needs his extended family
4. He may learn more by being with them than us
5. His extended family needs him as well
What should I do? Should I leave him back home, where he can get educated in the values of my country and my religion? And if ever I let him home, will I not miss him? Will he miss me? Will he forget me? Will his affection shift to another person? Will the bond that I work hard to build with him be broken?
I do not know....